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Sophia57 · 11-09-2005, 04:09 AM

Thanks for your reply Music.
I'm a bit like yourself - I stick with jobs and probably will stay in this one that I've worked and studied hard for till I retire.
You're lucky (I'm assuming now you're a recovering alcoholic) that your drinking never lost you your job and that you had the strength of character to keep that focus of retirement.
Unfortunately my husband doesn't know what he wants to do and is afraid his age is against him. I've taken a 'hands-off' approach to the problem since I started reading Alanon literature. I don't plead with him anymore, I let him bring it up. It's just at the moment he's at home miserable and stressed and riddled with anxiety.
Like your wife he has no pension to look forward to.
I guess i just need to talk to others and be told it will work out, that he won't have a nervous breakdown (now I sound silly, who can assure anyone of that?), and that we'll manage financially.
At the back of my mind I suppose there's always the thought that if it all gets too much he'll drink.

11-09-2005, 04:09 AM	#3 (permalink)
Sophia57 Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ireland Posts: 152	Thanks for your reply Music. I'm a bit like yourself - I stick with jobs and probably will stay in this one that I've worked and studied hard for till I retire. You're lucky (I'm assuming now you're a recovering alcoholic) that your drinking never lost you your job and that you had the strength of character to keep that focus of retirement. Unfortunately my husband doesn't know what he wants to do and is afraid his age is against him. I've taken a 'hands-off' approach to the problem since I started reading Alanon literature. I don't plead with him anymore, I let him bring it up. It's just at the moment he's at home miserable and stressed and riddled with anxiety. Like your wife he has no pension to look forward to. I guess i just need to talk to others and be told it will work out, that he won't have a nervous breakdown (now I sound silly, who can assure anyone of that?), and that we'll manage financially. At the back of my mind I suppose there's always the thought that if it all gets too much he'll drink.