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Hi Sophia,
I'm retired military. I was in the navy for 25 years and there were times I didn't like the military way of doing things or the people that I worked with/for but I kept one thing in mind. Retiring!! I didn't like the hours either. Sometimes weeks or months at sea and away from my family, but I made a choice. That's what involved here. CHOICE! Your husband can either continue on the way he is or make a choice to move on. And, he does deserve what he gets. We all receive what we deserve according to the choices we make. You may think he's a real nice guy and doesn't deserve to be in his situation. He may be a nice guy but he made some choices. He has several choices here as I see it but he needs to make a decision. He reminds me of my wife. She has jumped from job to job throughout her life and our marriage, and I've always supported her without telling her what choices to make, while taking care of myself and my attitude so that we both aren't messed up. I'm the type that finds a niche and sticks to it. I don't like jumping around, regardless of the hours, people, policies, etc. Funny thing is I'm the one with the retirement and my wife has nothing because she's never stayed anywhere long enough to earn benefits. Go figure. I'd suggest being supportive but letting him sort things out. Unless he asks, don't discuss the problem 'cause it adds to the fire. Things have a way of working out, sometimes for the better but it takes faith on your part that he'll eventually do what he needs to do.
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