[Pernell Johnson]

Hello everyone. I have some very simple suggestions. as you know we are complicated people so "KISS" meaining Keep It Simple Stupid. All jokes aside this is what I suggest.

1. First and foremost know that happiness comes from within. As you wake each morning affirm that you will be happy today!!! No Matter What.

2. For the women who are not in detox or rehab. This is a special mission, listen carefully. I want you to practice being feminine at all all cost.Next I want you to create an atmosphere of "Romance." Can You Hear Me???
I am not finish with this yet but you need one more suggestion.

3. Create and maintain an atmosphere of recovery through sponsorship, 12 steps, NA/AA--Co-Dep. friends. A new playground so to speak.

Back to No 2. Women are romantics at heart but have forgotten how to be romanced. Small things like the curve in your leg and the way you put your stockings on, the way you choose your heels, the type of skirt, dress or pants that you wear and the blouse the coupe d' gra. Please get your mind right first, meditate and think about what it means to be romantic, read and write to yourself on the subject. Be coy, exercise your wiles that women possess, never aggressive or forward, never demanding but always persistant. If I have left something out----Help Me!!! I am trying to remind you that you are to be romanced, courted, dated, revered and loved for yourself not for a fantasy that can never be loved---it is not real. ROMANCE IS REAL.
I promise you that if you master this----recovery is right around the corner.

4. Men, my brothers, we do not know how to be romantic. But we are good students of women who are romantic and demand to be courted and loved. Take a lesson, learn the art of romance including heart felt flowers and cards.
(No Game Allowed). If you are sincere about having a healthy relationship. Learn to be. The before mentioned addictions --love avoidant and love addicts cannot stand up under the heat of this kind of recovery. Men, practice being Men---not Men in Training.

This is simple. I could be wordy and eloquent but that is not the object here. The object is to recover from these dreaded addictions and recognize them for what they are---Unhealthy Relationships.

Suggested reading material-----Stage II Recovery. I do not remember the authors name--look it up on Hazelden.


Can You Hear Me Now!!!!------------------Can You Hear Me Now!!!!!