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shutterbug · 11-05-2005, 09:39 PM

I would have to agree....the more you stew over it the more obsessed with it and miserable you will become at every small infraction or even a hint of an infraction. The girl sounds like she's got it pretty easy for herself....i don't blame her for that. Some people have a nack for stuff like that.

Personally, i would prolly say to myself..."okay, I got the know how and i got the experience so HOW is she beating me in this game?" What positive things might there be that i can pick up from observing her....to help for my future jobs?

I'm not saying be a totally kiss-a$$ like you say she is being, but maybe observe if there's less desention in her tone of voice, words or posture. In otherwords does she just tend to be more agreeable over all. Being an "agreeable" type employee 80-90 percent of the time doesn't equal kiss-a$$ in my book. I just know that everyone likes to feel good about themselves and if you are disagreeing with people a lot, particularly bosses, (and not that you are), then they tend to take that as direct hits on their egos and self-esteem -- and then they tend to automatically and un-realizingly return the favor at a later date. So i guess, what i'm saying is.....just try to make others feel good about their own work and it will make your job easier..........in my opinion only.

(i've let people like this get under my skin....and TRUST me 1. things always get worse if i let that happen and 2. there's always another clone waiting for me at the next job. These kind of people are unfortunately, unavoidable.....so we just have to try and co-exist as best we can in however is healthiest for us.)

Good Luck, Hugs and God Bless

Jenna

11-05-2005, 09:39 PM	#2 (permalink)
shutterbug A picture's worth a 1000 words Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: With any luck, I'm lost in a view finder Posts: 2,947 Blog Entries: 5	I would have to agree....the more you stew over it the more obsessed with it and miserable you will become at every small infraction or even a hint of an infraction. The girl sounds like she's got it pretty easy for herself....i don't blame her for that. Some people have a nack for stuff like that. Personally, i would prolly say to myself..."okay, I got the know how and i got the experience so HOW is she beating me in this game?" What positive things might there be that i can pick up from observing her....to help for my future jobs? I'm not saying be a totally kiss-a$$ like you say she is being, but maybe observe if there's less desention in her tone of voice, words or posture. In otherwords does she just tend to be more agreeable over all. Being an "agreeable" type employee 80-90 percent of the time doesn't equal kiss-a$$ in my book. I just know that everyone likes to feel good about themselves and if you are disagreeing with people a lot, particularly bosses, (and not that you are), then they tend to take that as direct hits on their egos and self-esteem -- and then they tend to automatically and un-realizingly return the favor at a later date. So i guess, what i'm saying is.....just try to make others feel good about their own work and it will make your job easier..........in my opinion only. (i've let people like this get under my skin....and TRUST me 1. things always get worse if i let that happen and 2. there's always another clone waiting for me at the next job. These kind of people are unfortunately, unavoidable.....so we just have to try and co-exist as best we can in however is healthiest for us.) Good Luck, Hugs and God Bless Jenna __________________ I'M FINE!! Fanatically Insecure Neuratic & Emotional Bipolar/Depression support: 1-800-950-NAMI(6264).