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shutterbug · 11-01-2005, 10:33 PM

i don't think there's anything wrong with feeling relief from him passing....he was a monster who tortured you and other children and being relieved is understandable.

Heck just look to our history to see monster's being defeated and people rejoicing. It's been happening for centuries. I even saw an old headline the other day that said something like, "Americans rejoice 6 slain"....at that moment, i couldn't for the life of me think of why any American's would actually "rejoice" someone being slain from the war. Those 6 people had done nothing personal to any of those who were rejoicing, most likely. So why would they be so happy? Because the THREAT of personal harm to them and their children was lessoned with the deaths of those 6 men.

It's no different in your case. Although, actually in your case there's even more cause for celebration because you actually WERE caused direct and physical harm from this man. So rejoice, celebrate....not the passing of him as a person, but the part of him that was a child abuser. That person is gone and can't hurt another child ever again.....i personally think that calls for celebration.

I can only relate to your other concerns in saying that I too often feel overwhelmed by recovery and yet still feel like i'm doing nothing. And i don't understand that either.

But just look how far you have come and know how hard you have struggled.....it's not worth loosing all that...so hang on tight no matter what you do. Be proud of yourself for what you've accomplished and look at what kind of wonderful things you will be able to pass onto your children.

Hang in there

11-01-2005, 10:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
shutterbug A picture's worth a 1000 words Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: With any luck, I'm lost in a view finder Posts: 2,947 Blog Entries: 5	i don't think there's anything wrong with feeling relief from him passing....he was a monster who tortured you and other children and being relieved is understandable. Heck just look to our history to see monster's being defeated and people rejoicing. It's been happening for centuries. I even saw an old headline the other day that said something like, "Americans rejoice 6 slain"....at that moment, i couldn't for the life of me think of why any American's would actually "rejoice" someone being slain from the war. Those 6 people had done nothing personal to any of those who were rejoicing, most likely. So why would they be so happy? Because the THREAT of personal harm to them and their children was lessoned with the deaths of those 6 men. It's no different in your case. Although, actually in your case there's even more cause for celebration because you actually WERE caused direct and physical harm from this man. So rejoice, celebrate....not the passing of him as a person, but the part of him that was a child abuser. That person is gone and can't hurt another child ever again.....i personally think that calls for celebration. I can only relate to your other concerns in saying that I too often feel overwhelmed by recovery and yet still feel like i'm doing nothing. And i don't understand that either. But just look how far you have come and know how hard you have struggled.....it's not worth loosing all that...so hang on tight no matter what you do. Be proud of yourself for what you've accomplished and look at what kind of wonderful things you will be able to pass onto your children. Hang in there __________________ I'M FINE!! Fanatically Insecure Neuratic & Emotional Bipolar/Depression support: 1-800-950-NAMI(6264).