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Originally Posted by shutterbug Would there be anyway that your husband could go have a single "information" session with your therapist? Would he go for that? Maybe hearing things from an outsider would help?
OH....AND....ask him if he would be willing to go to a Friends and Family of Bipolars support group?
Tell him to research depression, anxiety and bipolar on his own.....I know that when i was initially researching bipolar D, i came across a lot of literature that explains why it's so important for us to stay on our meds. Maybe reading that kind of information written by a third party would help.
And if he won't read it then just tell him he has no right to talk about something he knows nothing about and doesn't care to even try and understand....and until he decides that it's possible that he could be wrong then you refuse to fight with him about it any longer......just a suggestion.
Hope you find some peace soon.
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Thanks Jenna,
Funny you mentioned that,, I asked him today about getting a day off, he drives semi, and works M-F and he puts in 50-60 hours a week, so he is't normally home until very late, right now we can't at all afford for him to take a day off, at least for just a couple weeks, we need a couple of full checks,,
badly, they are shutting off my, heat, electril, water/sewer, and cable TOMORROW if we can't pay ALL of them with his paycheck, so hopefully it will be enough, because I am behind, and not one of those listed will wait another week.. So, anyway, we have to wait a couple weeks, but I asked him about that, and he has NO vacation left, because last this last spring and last winter when I was using, he had to use ALOT of his vacation at that time, because I was so sick so often, or I was in the hospital, or whatever. I really believe he used at least 3 of the 4 weeks (if not more) of this years vacation up on me and my addiction
So he has no vacation left. Oh, I wonder if he harbors any anger and resentment about that?? I think last year was EXACTLY the same iwht his vacation.. BUT ya know what, I am planning that this next year will be different,( if I am still married to him..).. after all of this.. I believe he is just so sick of all of my crap.
But he did agree ti going to an apprt. when he can, and Barb ( my therapist) can get us in, in a couple of weeks. It just makes me angry, because we have been through this before, with my drug and alcohol counselor, LAST YEAR when my whole family (husband and kids) went and had a session with my therapist. She told him I needed to take the meds then?!!!!
I almost feel like he just is picking, or he just doesn't want to underwstand,,. .
I don't know. I just know that I am completely frustrated with it all..
Thanks so much,
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Becky