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Originally Posted by splendra No more affirming statements that say: I am...stupid, awful, terrible, ugly, dumb, idiotic, ect..ect...anytime I hear these kinds of "I am" statments in my mind or coming out of my mouth I hit the delete button. |
Precisely! These are exactly the things I am talking about in terms of changing the ways I think about myself and the actions I take. Splendra and Gabe mention affirmations. These are hugely important. I find that when I interrupt the spiraling negative chatter in my mind with positive,
I am and
I can statements, my whole attitude and outlook on life changes.
(couldn't resist that reference!)
And, unspun, I agree that mirror work makes a big difference. I resisted it for years, but now am willing to do it. I like the Louise Hay phrase - "
I love you, (insert name). I really, really love you." I do this every time I am in the bathroom when I wash my hands. But this is something that must be done daily over time in order to really take effect in terms of core beliefs.
Thanks Dan and Mill and Hope. Self love may be an individual thing, but like recovery, it is a road that we can walk together.
hugs,
phinny