Originally Posted by
SparkleKitty 
Detaching from his moods -- whatever they are -- is in your best interests since you are not able to go no contact with him completely.
Hurting people hurt people. Best explanation I can give. It's why it is important to remember that we are responsible for our own feelings and what we do with them.
Wanting to feel better and have a more positive outlook is something healthy people do. Addiction isn't healthy. Neither is codependence, but codependence sometimes feels more noble or self-sacrificng. It's still unhealthy.
Sparkle these words are helpful! I do need to detach from his moods and behavior. I'm a sensitive person and generally highly impacted by others moods, so it's hard, but I guess no time better to practice like the present.
Hurting people hurt people seems to be accurate, I just don't understand it.