Originally Posted by
Petat 
I agree and understand all of this but one question : I tried to set the boundary and told my husband no drinking/alcohol allowed in my home especially while we have kids - he just hides it and tells me to leave as it is his home!
Hiw xan you set boundaries for an alcoholic? He's just going to ignore it!
If your A is paying the bills at your home he may feel he has a right to do what he wants.
Setting boundaries is for you not him. If he is doing something you don't like you might have to be the one who goes somewhere else.
We can't control them. We can only control what we do. It can be difficult to get this boundary thing. They only work when we use them to control what we do not what the A in our life does.