I had to be careful not to put people on pedestals I as would never measure up to their expectations. Your ace is just another drunk like all of us.
I had to let my truths be found over time. I did the step to the best of my ability with full transparency as I could muster then. I was honest about my place and confusion. I kept going.
It was in that 4th step where I began to understand the nature of my issues and started to get some relief. Many simpy hung up and don't get to that point.
Our chips read To thine ownself be true. Remember that and keep working.
You're doing great