Ah...that's tricky. I guess he himself isn't even absolute about making that commitment to stay away from the drug...but again, in the end, I wouldn't blame addicts, knowing it's a disease. It all boils down to how much we're willing to sacrifice and whether that sacrifice is worth it. Love is a powerful thing and only we can decide how it will affect us. I spoke with a recovering addict from church and something she said to me that made me feel really freed- my ex's addiction is not my burden to carry. That realization made me feel instantly better. Why am I crying about something that doesn't have to do with me? Why am I hurt by something that is completely independent of me? If something someone does to HIMSELF makes me feel hurt, something is not right there, and I need to figure out how to make it right. For now, it is to remove myself from this situation completely. My ex can change..but by then I may have already moved on to something better.