I am amazed it took two days after the pot. For me it was a matter of seconds.
I didn't know how to do this either, but when the misery was great enough, l made my way to AA, and found out how to do it from people who have done it. There is a solution, but it takes honesty, open mindedness and willingness.
I gave up too. Completely gave up the fight of trying to do everything my way. I admitted defeat, surrendered if you like. And from there the healing began.