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squirrelly77 · 09-03-2005, 07:38 AM

You're right on the mark bike..."I'm supposed to be emotionally, physically, and spiritually investing my my own life...and another's (unconditional) love is just a bonus.

We get so wrapped up in the drama that we create when our expectations of another don't go as planned. I honestly think that that is another form of addiction. Try as we might convince ourselves that we aren't enjoying it...I think we actually are. It feeds our insanity by making us feel ALIVE...in the sick sorta way.

We have absolutely no control over other people's actions...and we might think ourselves into the frenzied..."why, why, WHY's?" over what they did. Who knows why your friend called and said that you're overreacting and that this other girl wants to meet you? They may (or may not) even be addicted to the game too. And, to me...that's exactly what it sounds like. This guy KNOWS how you feel about him--as you've said you told him. Yet, he toys with your mind by doing the things he does??? I'm sorry...that's a game to me.

All you can do, is step away and focus on taking care of yourself--strengthen your defenses...especially spiritually. Only HP knows the Truth of other's actions, and I believe that basic law of karma--whatever you put out into the world comes back to you three-fold. If someone is out to hurt you, or is only concerned with their own selfish gains (as this guy sounds like to me...although HE may not even see it) he will be vindicated.

I know...I know...I KNOW how hard it is to step away...take care of yourself...etc. but if you're to be truly happy, you can't avoid pain. I've learned that whenever something causes me discomfort (especially when it comes to "love") I can't get over the pain by circumnavigating the unpleasantness of it.I have to go THROUGH it in order to get OVER it. Right now...extra prayer...meditation...whatever you do to get connected with HP is needed. You're not alone, and Something Greater Than Yourself is listening, protecting, comforting and guiding you through these most difficult times. Trust in the process. Turn off your mind. Don't be consumed with the "little me" and the questions running through your mind over what other people's motives are.

My thoughts are with you...know that you are very much cared for in ways that you probably don't even realize!

Danielle

09-03-2005, 07:38 AM	#7 (permalink)
squirrelly77 Little Girl Found Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: North Andover, MA Posts: 567	You're right on the mark bike..."I'm supposed to be emotionally, physically, and spiritually investing my my own life...and another's (unconditional) love is just a bonus. We get so wrapped up in the drama that we create when our expectations of another don't go as planned. I honestly think that that is another form of addiction. Try as we might convince ourselves that we aren't enjoying it...I think we actually are. It feeds our insanity by making us feel ALIVE...in the sick sorta way. We have absolutely no control over other people's actions...and we might think ourselves into the frenzied..."why, why, WHY's?" over what they did. Who knows why your friend called and said that you're overreacting and that this other girl wants to meet you? They may (or may not) even be addicted to the game too. And, to me...that's exactly what it sounds like. This guy KNOWS how you feel about him--as you've said you told him. Yet, he toys with your mind by doing the things he does??? I'm sorry...that's a game to me. All you can do, is step away and focus on taking care of yourself--strengthen your defenses...especially spiritually. Only HP knows the Truth of other's actions, and I believe that basic law of karma--whatever you put out into the world comes back to you three-fold. If someone is out to hurt you, or is only concerned with their own selfish gains (as this guy sounds like to me...although HE may not even see it) he will be vindicated. I know...I know...I KNOW how hard it is to step away...take care of yourself...etc. but if you're to be truly happy, you can't avoid pain. I've learned that whenever something causes me discomfort (especially when it comes to "love") I can't get over the pain by circumnavigating the unpleasantness of it.I have to go THROUGH it in order to get OVER it. Right now...extra prayer...meditation...whatever you do to get connected with HP is needed. You're not alone, and Something Greater Than Yourself is listening, protecting, comforting and guiding you through these most difficult times. Trust in the process. Turn off your mind. Don't be consumed with the "little me" and the questions running through your mind over what other people's motives are. My thoughts are with you...know that you are very much cared for in ways that you probably don't even realize! Danielle