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hopealwayz · 09-03-2005, 02:06 AM

Ok, I did what I said and I told him that ever since he started dating this girl, that I could not be a part of his life anymore. I said that my love for him caused heartache when I thought of the two being together...

What happened last night?

I called him that night and she answered his phone. I was really shocked because I was expecting him and that threw me for a loop. I asked her if he was around and I heard her talking in the background saying that I was on the phone. He did not get up to come to the phone but told her to tell me that he would call me back some other time.

It hurt me that he did not come to the phone for a second to tell me that he would call me another time, and he just let her say it.

My grandfather said that this showed a lack of respect for me. I was trying to not let that upset me with his action, but after listening to my grandpa, I realized that it did hurt me.

I think that since he is my friend and I didn't even know this girl, that he could have told me what he needed to say instead of me hearing it from her....

So of course I get hurt that he didn't come talk to me..........and I went to bed crying and my heart broken. But that is what prompted me to call and tell him ( on his voice mail****) that I could not be his friend while he is with her. I wished them both the best and happiness and said that I would respect them both and their new relationship..

He called me back today and was laughing . He said that it wasn't what I thought it was and said that he wasn't laughing at me, but the severity of what I thought the situation was. He said that they were not as serious as I made it out to be and he said that she wanted to meet me. He said that it was an interesting situation. I tried to back off, but he moved back forward...and she wants to meet me??????????? I don't know why, but I don't think it is a good idea.... because her new potential boyfriend is the love of my life and I just cannot let that be known... I do respect them....but it seems that he still wants me in his life too...

I do not understand at all...........I have no experience with this.

09-03-2005, 02:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
hopealwayz Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: somewhere Posts: 3,513	*I tried to let him go.....BUT** don't understand Ok, I did what I said and I told him that ever since he started dating this girl, that I could not be a part of his life anymore. I said that my love for him caused heartache when I thought of the two being together... What happened last night? I called him that night and she answered his phone. I was really shocked because I was expecting him and that threw me for a loop. I asked her if he was around and I heard her talking in the background saying that I was on the phone. He did not get up to come to the phone but told her to tell me that he would call me back some other time. It hurt me that he did not come to the phone for a second to tell me that he would call me another time, and he just let her say it. My grandfather said that this showed a lack of respect for me. I was trying to not let that upset me with his action, but after listening to my grandpa, I realized that it did hurt me. I think that since he is my friend and I didn't even know this girl, that he could have told me what he needed to say instead of me hearing it from her.... So of course I get hurt that he didn't come talk to me..........and I went to bed crying and my heart broken. But that is what prompted me to call and tell him ( on his *voice mail)* that I could not be his friend while he is with her. I wished them both the best and happiness and said that I would respect them both and their new relationship.. He called me back today and was laughing . He said that it wasn't what I thought it was and said that he wasn't laughing at me, but the severity of what I thought the situation was. He said that they were not as serious as I made it out to be and he said that she wanted to meet me. He said that it was an interesting situation. I tried to back off, but he moved back forward...and she wants to meet me??????????? I don't know why, but I don't think it is a good idea.... because her new potential boyfriend is the love of my life and I just cannot let that be known... I do respect them....but it seems that he still wants me in his life too... I do not understand at all...........I have no experience with this.