HopefulHMIA,
How wonderful that you AND your daughter have found this forum. There is much experience, strength and hope to be found here and many who are no longer afraid to share it with others. Come often, read, lurk, post, vent -- whatever you need today - take what you need and leave the rest.
"....i have found two meetings within 50 miles of where I live and I do plan to go...." as useful as this forum is, there is nothing which beats face-to-face contact with others who share your problems - you are not alone! You and your daughter are taking the first steps to finding your recoveries.
I will leave you with a few song lyrics which my Nar-Anon home group has printed inside of a "Welcome" card which we give to newcomers - they do a pretty good job of summing up the underlying spirit of any recovery meeting:
"We're glad you're here,
'cause we've been there,
and it's hard to find someone who
understands enough to care.
Put down your pain, cast out your fears.
We've all been there,
and we're glad you're here.
- As performed by Kevin Sullivan
Keep coming back,
Jim