Wow Wisconsin, this really is an interesting episode. I agree with what Firesprite said.
Specially that even though the associated memory with STBXAH wasn't the worst of the memories, the incident was still bad and needs to be remembered, and greived.
I'm a depressive and often have dreams of being super angry and acting just horribly. I tend to be grateful for these dreams as I believe I'm processing some wounds from my childhood. My childhood was relatively drama free and my family fairly functional. However that "relativeness" doesn't give me a pass on having to deal with yuck emotions.
Big hug to you.