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I've internalized the trauma in my life... and it will never go away... or that's what my research has said...
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Bikewench, I'll never forget the fantastic advice you gave me when I was so woried about D. Please challenge this belief that the past traumas will never go away, at least enough to keep your eyes open to new things.
Have you ever tried CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)? It's very different and not as determanistic as analysis (sorry I have a pet hate of the latter so yep there's some bias). I'm trying to get CBT on our national health service at the moment because the stuff on it's effectiveness rocks. With it or without it I refuse to have my future determined by things in my life I didn't chose.
I try to look at life like a book with me as a character in it, sick or well, poor or not, tall or short, some bits I influence, some I control, some just happen BUT I get to write how my character plays the cards dealt. I get to try and be the hero, if I see something I like in someone else I can make my character do the same, that's what adulthood means to me; I got handed the pen to write my own story and it isn't done yet!
Please don't lose hope, the only certainty in life is change so don't forget to remember that with cr@ppy stuff - because I'll bet you remind yourself with the good stuff?