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Hi Ken,
I certainly undertstand what your feelings, kinda in the reverse tho.
Im al-anon for a lotta years and I absolutely agree all family members needs recovery.
I grew spiritually while he refused to address his alcoholism. It felt like I was becoming a skyscraper while he was still a first floor sub let.
He got sober few times, and we talked recovery alot. Was good stuff. Didnt last. Finally, when I grew right into wanting a divorce, he got sober, was just too late for me tho.
We stayed friends, good friends during his wonderful sobriety, then I got sick and relapsed my way right out of al-anon (new boyfriend) and went right down into the depths of despair from where I came. He stayed sober. He was now the skyscraper,gowing beautifully into what HP has intended for him.
2 long, painful years later, I got "sober" again, returned to al-anon, just as he was begninning his own U-turn into those depths of insanity I was clawing my way out of. He stopped meetings, sponsor, service ever so slowly, and now, 2 years later, is living the low life of a dry drunk of which my son and I have had to let go of.
Yes, it is my opinion that those family members who do have that family disease of alcoholism and who do not chose recovery are chosing an unhealthy path. Just like we could not get you sober, tho, you cannot get her "sober" and into the 12 steps. You can just keep living the right life as you are and ask God to care for you both while doing so....We, just like you, who have been affected by alcoholism are spiritually ill. Thank God for my recovery...ps.my 13 yr old boy is also a 12 stepper in Alateen.
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