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Originally Posted by roxiepoxie Hi,I am an alcoholic coming up on one year of sobriety in a few weeks.(one day at a time)I am in a relationship with someone that has been in and out of the program for years.He goes 9,10,11 months and a few times over a year without drinking.When he relapses its for one day and then he's back to sobriety again for another 9 or 10 months.He relapsed the other night.We had been going to 2 meetings a day for 4 straight days! he told me he has never done a 4th step!after all these years of being in the program.He desperately wants sobriety,I can see the pain showing.I guess my question is,do you think not doing a 4th and fifth step has been part of the reason for relapsing?If so,what are some good readings about the 4th step? I know I cant fix him but i do want to help in anyway i can. thanks for listening.
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He shouldn't worry about the fourth step until he accepts the first step. Apparently he forgets those platitudes and still thinks alcohol has an answer for him. As long as that's the case, it won't matter what steps he works past the first one.