[Dawn10]

My mom has been diagnosed with Borderline personality Disorder. (BPD) Not new information for us, but as she ages, and has a myriad of physical problems that have necessitated her being a nursing home, her behavior issues are out of control. She has no mobility, so the feeling of confinement to her room is probably making things worse. My Dad is her primary emotional caregiver, although that is getting harder and harder for him to do. I can barely make myself visit and when I do, I can only make it for 30-45 minutes at a time.
Does anyone have any ESH on how they cope? How much of the behavior, (verbal abuse, whining, tries at manipulation, paranoia) can we excuse to her "illness" and how much do we challenge her on? Because of her physical condition, ( obesity, Congestive Heart failure, diabetes, peripheral neuropathy) her life is near it's end. I love my Mom, but I do not like her and that makes me very, very sad.