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shutterbug · 08-03-2005, 12:19 AM

Hi sweetie, just wanted to offer my 2 cents.

I'm 29 and battling my 2nd major depression. My first one hit me around age 21 and resulted in me having to drop out of college and not working for awhile until I got better. I hated meds and wouldn't stay on anything for more than a month.

Stressful events or situations often light the fire under a depressive episode. I lost the love of my life shortly before my first depression and I ended a relationship with the second love of my life shortly before this second episode. The lost of this second man was much more difficult on me in that I was so strongly connected to him. I was head over heels in love with the man I "thought" he was. Once I realized that he wasn't really 'that man' - the true love I had been searching for, then I started to see him for who he "really" was and that wasn't pretty. By the time I finally cut things off with him, I was in the worst shape of my life. I came within a split second decision of ending my life.

It is my opinion that the longer you hold on to this miserable relationship, the worse your depression will get and the harder it will be to eleviate - with or without the help of meds.

You are worth more than you are letting yourself be treated. I was lucky in that I found Al-anon in the middle of my crazy relationship with him. He was an alcoholic and my father was too, and this program taught me how to detach and let go of people and situations that were/are harmful to my life, future and well-being. I had NEVER ended a relationship with any man who I loved before and this program gave me the strength, self-esteem and sanity to get a clear picture of the relationship and to pull away from it. Now I can see that my life would have continued to deterirate if I would have stayed messed up with him. Cut your losses and find someone who you can be happy with. Learn how to love yourself and to DEMAND respect from everyone in your life, expecially your significant other.

Individual AND group therapy would be VERY beneficial to you during this time, for both the difficulties with your relationship and with your depression. If there are NAMI meetings in your area, I would very highly suggest you give it a try and really stick with it. It's amazing at how much help these programs can offer to help people like us to live truely happy lives.

If you have any questions or if I can possibly help in anyway, feel free to private message me or contact me for my e-mail address.

Hugs,
Jenna

08-03-2005, 12:19 AM	#5 (permalink)
shutterbug A picture's worth a 1000 words Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: With any luck, I'm lost in a view finder Posts: 2,947 Blog Entries: 5	Hi sweetie, just wanted to offer my 2 cents. I'm 29 and battling my 2nd major depression. My first one hit me around age 21 and resulted in me having to drop out of college and not working for awhile until I got better. I hated meds and wouldn't stay on anything for more than a month. Stressful events or situations often light the fire under a depressive episode. I lost the love of my life shortly before my first depression and I ended a relationship with the second love of my life shortly before this second episode. The lost of this second man was much more difficult on me in that I was so strongly connected to him. I was head over heels in love with the man I "thought" he was. Once I realized that he wasn't really 'that man' - the true love I had been searching for, then I started to see him for who he "really" was and that wasn't pretty. By the time I finally cut things off with him, I was in the worst shape of my life. I came within a split second decision of ending my life. It is my opinion that the longer you hold on to this miserable relationship, the worse your depression will get and the harder it will be to eleviate - with or without the help of meds. You are worth more than you are letting yourself be treated. I was lucky in that I found Al-anon in the middle of my crazy relationship with him. He was an alcoholic and my father was too, and this program taught me how to detach and let go of people and situations that were/are harmful to my life, future and well-being. I had NEVER ended a relationship with any man who I loved before and this program gave me the strength, self-esteem and sanity to get a clear picture of the relationship and to pull away from it. Now I can see that my life would have continued to deterirate if I would have stayed messed up with him. Cut your losses and find someone who you can be happy with. Learn how to love yourself and to DEMAND respect from everyone in your life, expecially your significant other. Individual AND group therapy would be VERY beneficial to you during this time, for both the difficulties with your relationship and with your depression. If there are NAMI meetings in your area, I would very highly suggest you give it a try and really stick with it. It's amazing at how much help these programs can offer to help people like us to live truely happy lives. If you have any questions or if I can possibly help in anyway, feel free to private message me or contact me for my e-mail address. Hugs, Jenna __________________ I'M FINE!! Fanatically Insecure Neuratic & Emotional Bipolar/Depression support: 1-800-950-NAMI(6264). Last edited by bikewench; 02-04-2006 at 04:44 PM.