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Cap3 · 07-30-2005, 06:52 AM

Hi Bozo,all great suggestions above.You say that your son performs like an angel at the Doctors,office.....This says volums to me,as a parent.Red flag.So,he can control his behaviour when he feels that its in his best interest to do so.,or when he ...wants..to,for as short a period and or long periods,as he...feels..He is not as out of control as he would have you believe....If he was so ill menatlly,or out of control,this would be totally, impossible,to control their behaviour at any time.May have calm, periods,at times.But not when they want to,or decided to be can angel.For even this decision,is out of their control.Doesnt seem to be the case here..Now you have a child who is running your home.Your total life.Time to turn the tables around.You are the parent.Has there been conquences for bad behaviour?Even the sickest of sick can learn.In recovery programs i learn what is my part in all da mess.Look at your part here please..Where you have enabled him.Ive done this myself many,many times..There are alot of parents who do feel that giving kids conquences for their actions,is being a mean crule parent.But the crulity is when we don't,i feel.If a child has no conquences for their actions,they get out of control.Every person who walks this earth,pay conquences for their actions.Everyone.Time your child learn this too.Be strong,consistance,.You already are loving,carring,so just might want to add to this.Suggestion only,Try to get a suppot group,with all the folks who are in this boys life.They too could be enabling him,who knows.I know myself that at times its just simplier to give in,oh yea,because they sure can ware,ya down,at times.Kids like to test the waters,see how far,they can go,learning about their boundaires,and where they are..There is a reason why your lad behaves the way he does.Because it works.
Thanks for letting me share,my expeirnces,and thoughts here.Please keep in mind,that i don't know you and or your family.Im sharring,and suggesting,what has worked out for my own family,with 4 lads..And prayer and putting God first and formost in our life,too.Our family would not be together as a family,its only through Gods Grace that we are..Prayer without works is dead.I needed to take action too.
My prayers for your whole family.Keep the Faith,no matter what..

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Cap3 Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 732	Hi Bozo,all great suggestions above.You say that your son performs like an angel at the Doctors,office.....This says volums to me,as a parent.Red flag.So,he can control his behaviour when he feels that its in his best interest to do so.,or when he ...wants..to,for as short a period and or long periods,as he...feels..He is not as out of control as he would have you believe....If he was so ill menatlly,or out of control,this would be totally, impossible,to control their behaviour at any time.May have calm, periods,at times.But not when they want to,or decided to be can angel.For even this decision,is out of their control.Doesnt seem to be the case here..Now you have a child who is running your home.Your total life.Time to turn the tables around.You are the parent.Has there been conquences for bad behaviour?Even the sickest of sick can learn.In recovery programs i learn what is my part in all da mess.Look at your part here please..Where you have enabled him.Ive done this myself many,many times..There are alot of parents who do feel that giving kids conquences for their actions,is being a mean crule parent.But the crulity is when we don't,i feel.If a child has no conquences for their actions,they get out of control.Every person who walks this earth,pay conquences for their actions.Everyone.Time your child learn this too.Be strong,consistance,.You already are loving,carring,so just might want to add to this.Suggestion only,Try to get a suppot group,with all the folks who are in this boys life.They too could be enabling him,who knows.I know myself that at times its just simplier to give in,oh yea,because they sure can ware,ya down,at times.Kids like to test the waters,see how far,they can go,learning about their boundaires,and where they are..There is a reason why your lad behaves the way he does.Because it works. Thanks for letting me share,my expeirnces,and thoughts here.Please keep in mind,that i don't know you and or your family.Im sharring,and suggesting,what has worked out for my own family,with 4 lads..And prayer and putting God first and formost in our life,too.Our family would not be together as a family,its only through Gods Grace that we are..Prayer without works is dead.I needed to take action too. My prayers for your whole family.Keep the Faith,no matter what..