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tassle · 07-25-2005, 08:59 PM

JT and JG, thanks for the kind and thoughtful responses. I'm surprised that both of you so strongly discourage me from talking openly with my parents about the consequences of alcohol on my life, along with theirs. Perhaps calling it the 'big intervention speech' made it seem as if I expected to get something specific from them as a result -- JG mentioned validation and JT understanding -- in fact what I intend is simply to be direct and honest with them in a way I never have been, about the consequences, and I called it 'intervention' because I'm likely to end my contact with my dad while he's still drinking (which I've practically done the past five years or so as it is, but never having articulated that his drinking is a big reason, not simply time and busy-ness, etc.), and that reminds me of the classic intervention to help an addict recognize they have a problem.

I don't mean to be defensive, I'm just interested whether JT and JG represent a consensus view on this general issue, or if there are other viewpoints out there. Rather than start a new post, I'll just ask here if anyone has an experience on that topic - what's your relationship like with 'unrecovering' parents during your recovery? Do/did you maintain a relationhship as whatever it can be, or drift away from them silently, or communicate directly with them what you've learned about yourself in some form? And what's it been like?

Thanks again for the supportive responses.

07-25-2005, 08:59 PM	#4 (permalink)
tassle Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: State of Uncertainty Posts: 5	JT and JG, thanks for the kind and thoughtful responses. I'm surprised that both of you so strongly discourage me from talking openly with my parents about the consequences of alcohol on my life, along with theirs. Perhaps calling it the 'big intervention speech' made it seem as if I expected to get something specific from them as a result -- JG mentioned validation and JT understanding -- in fact what I intend is simply to be direct and honest with them in a way I never have been, about the consequences, and I called it 'intervention' because I'm likely to end my contact with my dad while he's still drinking (which I've practically done the past five years or so as it is, but never having articulated that his drinking is a big reason, not simply time and busy-ness, etc.), and that reminds me of the classic intervention to help an addict recognize they have a problem. I don't mean to be defensive, I'm just interested whether JT and JG represent a consensus view on this general issue, or if there are other viewpoints out there. Rather than start a new post, I'll just ask here if anyone has an experience on that topic - what's your relationship like with 'unrecovering' parents during your recovery? Do/did you maintain a relationhship as whatever it can be, or drift away from them silently, or communicate directly with them what you've learned about yourself in some form? And what's it been like? Thanks again for the supportive responses.