[JT]

I am wondering what you hope to accomplish by delivering your "intervention message". Sure my parents actions had a huge impact on my life but ultimately it is...and always was...up to me to live my best life. My mother was a huge codie and she never would have understood if I tried to intervene. Couple that with the fact that one of my own "symptoms" is trying way too hard to get someone else to get it....it's just not productive for me to go there.

Acceptance is at the core of any 12 step program. I had to learn to accept the alcoholics in my life and take a hands off approach in order to heal myself. That includes my parents. They have wounds too and have developed their own ways to lick them.

Something else I have learned on my journey is not to do things that I may end up regretting. Doing nothing at all can be an action...a choice. There is always tomorrow.

Al Anon is my program. It is much more available than ACOA and it has taken me far in healing the past.

I wish you peace,
JT