Kata, I don't know if you've yet come across the AA/Alanon acronym "G.O.D." for "Gift Of Desperation." I think desperation really IS a gift, b/c it allows us to put aside our pride and our preconceptions and try things that we wouldn't have considered trying if we weren't at our wits' end.
It might not be a pleasant place to be, but amazing things can happen there!