Hi MIRecovery,
You may be right, I might only be treating the symptoms, I don't know. They are manly things that I do for me so I don't engage in the insanity. Those are also things that help me take care of myself and gain some much needed confidence. I think that gaining self-confidence is something that I really need and also what will help me get to where I need to be to sever the last ties with him.
The way I see it, I have 2 choices : either this disease and my codenpendy swallow me whole or, one baby step at a time, I try to shift my focus from his problem and the insanity of the dynamic and I turn it to myself and to the things I can do to protect myself and get to the point where I can cut all ties once and for all.