1) What techniques do you use to stop worry?
2) How do you stay in the now and prevent worrying about future expected bad scenarios?
3) How do you combat negative thoughts?
4) How do you shut off concern for the alcoholic/addict's health and well-being? (What do you tell yourself that helps you?)
5) How do you enjoy your life, your food, your health, your warmth, when you know your loved one is suffering and you "should" not "help" them (because helping hasn't helped them)?
6) How do you make decisions that you are sure are morally sound (such as "not helping")?
7) When you get "bad news" how do you handle it?
8) How do you make sense of your loved one being alcoholic/addict and evidently not learning from the horrible experiences that has brought (i.e., jail, hospitalization - almost dying, etc.)?