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It sounds as though your husband is doing the "crazymaking" thing to you. It's common in abusive households. I went through it ... my ex would say threatening things to me or do things to me, and then deny it. It's quite common when you begin talking to other abused women ... almost every abuser I've heard about has accused his/her victim of being the crazy one. And in this type of situation, which is a control issue, the abuser uses the best leverage they have against the victim, which is almost always the children:
[..............last night he told me he didn't want my psycho a$$ raising the kids anyways..so just get out.screaming in my ear.threatening to call the cops........]
If you do seek marital counseling, just be careful. I've heard that, in many cases, the counselor will take the abuser's side ... probably because the abuser is in a more powerful position and is probably more convincing, while the victim has been subject to his/her "crazymaking" and believes himself/herself to be insane.
If you're not already in counseling, get counseling for yourself first. Go to a battered women's shelter ... they usually offer counseling and group sessions to help you deal with these types of matters and you would be surprised by how common your situation is. It really is! Some of them offer off-site sessions for women who are not yet ready to leave or who choose not to stay at the shelter.
Good luck to you.
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