Because sex is so interpersonal and revealing of at least your physical self, I think it is bound to change when in a recovery program that changes all facets of the wayyou act think and feel.
For me, I found sexual abuse issues were the main obstacle to my enjoyment of sex.
And in my extremes of wanting to be a sexless stone statue or to just have complete sexual abandon proved annoying.
I think sex is very personal and we all have different desires and tastes, whether committed or not, I need some sort of mutuality between me and the other party, or parties if I ever chose that! haha.
but as everything in my life changes constantly, I don't see why my views and experiences of sex would stay the same.
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i havent had the real opportunity to have sexual experience as I've been single for quite some time, sometimes by choice as I felt unready and sometimes by Gods choice cos he thinks im not ready obviously.
but the comfort factor...i need to feel relatively safe i think, mutual agreement on what its about, pleasure alone, expression of love, experimental. but i also look at all things where i dont feel comfortable.
anything that is new i find uncomfortable like new shoes and new postive behaviours, feeling bliss took a long time to feel comfy.have i still got emotional issues, abuse stuff, other baggage?
like i practice positive behaviours, so i guess i could experience sex to see if its discomfort from the newness and the sstrange healthiness of it or if its something deeper and more disturbing than that holding me back from who i want to be, in this case, sexually.
peace
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