| Had similar situation
Recently, my sister was staying with me as she had to leave an abusive situation( verbal abuse from her husband) and she moved out.( We have a history of no boundaries-no respect in our own family so there was a repetition factor here obviously.) However, what I didn't expect was the fact that living with her I discovered that her behaviour-provocation, when I put some basic boundaries( no men in the house-go to the guy's house-I also have a daughter living with me etc..I don' wanna know, in other words)-in the end caused me to ask her to leave. She had sneaked in a guy into the house at night several times. It caused a terrible scene.
This would be a definate trigger on a binge for days. I still wonder what we have to do to get our message across; I seem to stop seeing a lot of people these days. She accused me of being paranoid .
I do understand exactly what you've been through as it has to deal with a family member and trust and betrayal come into factor. It's also tiring and sad.
The bottom line for me was my sobriety and that I have a right to be respected. Empathy up to a point but then self protection is what was needed in the end. I asked her why and she said" I just wanted to".
Take care,
Tiger
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