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Hi Juls,
I was in a situation very recently where I experienced really bad triggers around an old, dear friend of mine. I know it's not the same as I am new to recovery. But I really felt your words and wanted to reply.
Anyway, I hadn't seen this person since becoming sober and hoped it would be better than ever. We have kept in contact over the phone. Well, it was awful and I had to just come out and say it. He understood and said he felt the same way (he is addicted to marijuana but clean last few weeks) which was a relief actually. We talked about it. Turns out that as I was thinking "better get a glass of wine" he was thinking "where's the bong?" apparently just being around him (for me) and being in an old hang-out (for him) did it to us. We decided that next time we would try meeting in neutral territory.
I guess that shows that these triggers are just a part of giving up the old life because we both felt it. I always felt it was just me being over-reactive and in a way maybe it is, but I think that for now it's there to protect me.
I hope that your brother finds some inspiration in your example.
Dolphin
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