| Abstinence
Another member of OA and I were talking on the phone, discussing on how the definition of abstinence has changed for both of us.
Myself, I don't even like the word, I see it as, in this part of my journey, abstinence is totally refraining from certain foods. But wait, now, I am just realizing to call it refraining from compulsively eating.
My food plan will probably change as life continues on, but I am in the mind set, that if I put something on my never-never list of not to eat, I will go crazy and binge on it.
I realize some people have had success with this. I get very stressed out listening to other people talk at meetings about what is on their never never list and then I feel guilty because I have no such list.
Also, I get it in my mixed up head, I should try to do everyone else's food plan. It has been a slow process, but I am finally learning what is right for me and how not to internalize that everyone is not telling me to do their food plan.
Has anyone else been caught in this kind of crazy thinking? Is this diet mentality or just a form of it?
Any suggestions as to how I might realize no one is preaching to me and speaking of themselves?
Food has been okay the last few days. No binges, no compulsively eating. It has been a relief and a gift from God.
Thanks for listening to me.
One meal at a time.
Love
Antreeta
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