Hi Eaglesgirl,
Your husband is lucky to have your support and I'm glad to hear that you're taking care of yourself too. I've been sober about 4 1/2 years and I was a control freak, always afraid that if I let go of anything the world would fall apart. Of course my world did fall apart and I had to learn that I needed to let go of things in order to live. So, I'm not an AA person, but I love the Serenity Prayer. It keeps me grounded.
"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference."
Anna