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Originally Posted by emma-lou i know without doubt i could never convince (difficult to explain but in our type of r/ship that would never be a consideration anyway) him to seek help of any kind he is extremley controlling of himself as well as others and will only do as he feels is right, i am very submissive by nature and could never be strong or forcefull enough to convince him otherwise. i am probably repeating myself but i really dont know what to do or how to help him through his bad times ..dont people who have this disorder have loving succesful relationships and family's? surely they do? i just want to understand and help him and for us all to be happy which he says he wants more than anything and my children and me do too. should we really let this ruin things for us? i dont want to offend any of you who have replied but surely there is some hope?
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I do not mean to be negative, but the bolded part throws some pretty significant red flags up for me. Very few (healthy) relationships can work with this dynamic, because it is counter to everything that is necessary to have a successful relationship.
As for the orange part.....if he really wants to do what is necessary for everyone to be happy, he will need to find a better way to cope with his disorder. Currently (from what you have described), he has not been able to do that. Also, medication is not the only option. I understand his concerns about medication, but there are many alternatives out there. There was a recent thread about alternative methods to medication (it should still be on the first page).
I wish you two the best, but the bolded part....that concerns me more than his dx right now.
-pedagogue