[pedagogue]

admitit is on the money with her comments. I would like to add a few things.

Her comparison to diabetes is one I use often when I try to explain to people/clients about a dx such as Bi-Polar (or more commonly schizophrenia). It is a disorder, and needs to be treated. There shouldn't be a stigma associated with it.....but there usually is, whether it is by the effected person or society.

As for living in that environment....I would take some time to really think about the possible outcomes of that decision. I do not want to say no, but the current situation does not sound like a healthy envirnoment, let alone if it gets worse.

The type of Bi-Polar, his cycle pattern (normal, rapid, etc), and if there are any co-morbid disorders or substance abuse, is what concerns me. Left untreated it really is a crapshoot. My personal opinion is that I would not want my children in an environment that was unstable and has the possibility for bad things to happen.

The fact that he does not trust you, is accusatory, refuses communication, has some hostility, and isolates.....I think that is a time bomb waiting to happen. You moving in will bring about a large shift in his daily life, which he probably won't adjust to well.

If you want to have a relationship with this man (because by what you are saying...there isn't much of one), you BOTH need to become educated about his disorder and seek some professional help.

I wish you the best of luck, and please let us know how it goes.

-pedagogue