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The reason I was able to grow beyond my issues of rejection and jealousy was that this person acted in all of their affairs with integrity, homesty, compassion, and sacrifice.
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Give me integrity over celebecy any day of the week!! I'd rather know an honest person who bonks for fun, than a person without compassion or integrity.
Your post reminded me of a lass I used to work with - she was a bit of a tart (her label) but had a heart of gold. While she worked with us there was a young farmer who was overweight, not very attractive, no confidence, a bit slow, and generally 'left out' of the other farm lads party hard life. The girl was popular with the lads, never offered long term relationships and stayed friends with all of them that wanted to. She watched what happened with the lad who was left out and decided to do something about it. She never did the chasing - but this time she did, that lad didn't believe what was happening at first, but she sought him out day after day until the inevitable happened. After which she told all of us he was the best lover she ever had, she never changed her story - not even with us girls.
As with the other lads there was no deal for a relationship, he might have been a little on the slow side but he did know that. However the rumours about his success in bed, and I believe MORE than that was the FACT she HAD chased him, and treated him like a hero - it changed him.
I was 16 then, 18 years ago, she stayed friends with him till she moved county. I have stayed knowing many of those farm lads and he is now happily married with three kids. He lost the weight over the 3 or 4 years after her mission, and he doesn't seem slow now. He STILL has the reputation as a super stud, the stories she started about his success in bed are STILL told, now backed up by his wife who has a great deal of affection for Nick, she even says he had a good first teacher.
In my book that was one hell of a gift.