SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information - View Single Post

Gooch · 05-19-2005, 10:55 PM

Great thread!

I barely know where to start .. But many years ago in school we had the equivalent of home made year books. Friends from class would pass them around and we would write comments in them . This one fella who I haven't thought about in years, wrote in mine. "A good women is only a woman but a good cigar is a smoke!"

I wonder what the spiritual conection/energy transferral from sex to making love to cigars to our chakras to my remembering Ron's little comment in my "slam book" has to offer me or you. Actually I don't wonder what. I wonder at !

Recently a friend I never had the chanec to meet passed from his earthly coils. After spending half his life sorting through the overwhelming task of coming to terms with his emotions, drives, thoughts, lusts, and fears, he was able to redirect his energies into artistic expression and channeling love and a zest for life through his passion for creating and riding motorcycles. Ironic that a man who had been locked down in a mental institution twice, been imprisoned for bank robbery, blown off his own finger while attempting to build a bomb to blow up the catholic school that he had hated, was by any psychiatrist's standard references( and his own) insane, finally came to terms with his own energies, focused them, shook off his bondage, found love, and began to live in the great freedom of what he referred to as "the great mystery of life".

I'm not sure what this has to do with making love, or sex, but the act of loving without regard to expectation of end result is the only way we are ever going to shake off the physical and material chains, heal all of our old scars, and grow into those light bodies that are waiting to resonate in the great sound and light show.

I worry a little about the scenario of "moving away from those who are described as draining our energy" Thats not the example that has allowed me to shift my paradigm.

If there was ever anyone with a sad story that could cause that effect, I would have killed or poisoned off the whole recovery family in our area when I first walked through the door.

THe greatest lesson I have been taught about intimacy and trust came from a self proclaimed hedonist. The reason I was able to grow beyond my issues of rejection and jealousy was that this person acted in all of their affairs with integrity, homesty, compassion, and sacrifice. I always knew I could count on them being there when they said they would, and that I would be told the truth even when I was first warned that it might be something that would challenge me to stretch beyond the limits of my fears and old hurts.

Although this person and i choose not to be together in a traditional relationship or even a living arrangement and both of us have pursued other relationships, the love we have has not nor will ever diminish.

I've never had to wonder those "what if's?" I have no reason to feel I missed out on anything or have suffered a loss. If anything I feel as though I am richer and have more love to offer. And someplace in the process became conscious that I have always had all the love I need and it's been within myself.

Accepting that great mystery and trying to go with the flow also suggests that I may have had all the sex I will ever need as well.

I'd still like to stick around a while longer and keep reading along rather than trying to skip to the end. Whats the point of reaidng the book if you just have to jump to the end to see if "the butler did it"?

my friend Tony used to say that everything is connected and like the ripples from a stone thrown into a pond, every little electron that gets bumped sets off a chain of events.

Staying focused in the moment can help us be more mindful of the electrons we are bumping into. Grace was never one of my strong suits. Some times I practice sneaking up on my cat to see if I can pet him without waking him up and sometimes he stretches a little and purrs to let me know I was close to the objective.

Oh great .. now I've gone and waxed diversely.

05-19-2005, 10:55 PM	#76 (permalink)
Gooch Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: out there... Posts: 2,654	Great thread! I barely know where to start .. But many years ago in school we had the equivalent of home made year books. Friends from class would pass them around and we would write comments in them . This one fella who I haven't thought about in years, wrote in mine. "A good women is only a woman but a good cigar is a smoke!" I wonder what the spiritual conection/energy transferral from sex to making love to cigars to our chakras to my remembering Ron's little comment in my "slam book" has to offer me or you. Actually I don't wonder what. I wonder at ! Recently a friend I never had the chanec to meet passed from his earthly coils. After spending half his life sorting through the overwhelming task of coming to terms with his emotions, drives, thoughts, lusts, and fears, he was able to redirect his energies into artistic expression and channeling love and a zest for life through his passion for creating and riding motorcycles. Ironic that a man who had been locked down in a mental institution twice, been imprisoned for bank robbery, blown off his own finger while attempting to build a bomb to blow up the catholic school that he had hated, was by any psychiatrist's standard references( and his own) insane, finally came to terms with his own energies, focused them, shook off his bondage, found love, and began to live in the great freedom of what he referred to as "the great mystery of life". I'm not sure what this has to do with making love, or sex, but the act of loving without regard to expectation of end result is the only way we are ever going to shake off the physical and material chains, heal all of our old scars, and grow into those light bodies that are waiting to resonate in the great sound and light show. I worry a little about the scenario of "moving away from those who are described as draining our energy" Thats not the example that has allowed me to shift my paradigm. If there was ever anyone with a sad story that could cause that effect, I would have killed or poisoned off the whole recovery family in our area when I first walked through the door. THe greatest lesson I have been taught about intimacy and trust came from a self proclaimed hedonist. The reason I was able to grow beyond my issues of rejection and jealousy was that this person acted in all of their affairs with integrity, homesty, compassion, and sacrifice. I always knew I could count on them being there when they said they would, and that I would be told the truth even when I was first warned that it might be something that would challenge me to stretch beyond the limits of my fears and old hurts. Although this person and i choose not to be together in a traditional relationship or even a living arrangement and both of us have pursued other relationships, the love we have has not nor will ever diminish. I've never had to wonder those "what if's?" I have no reason to feel I missed out on anything or have suffered a loss. If anything I feel as though I am richer and have more love to offer. And someplace in the process became conscious that I have always had all the love I need and it's been within myself. Accepting that great mystery and trying to go with the flow also suggests that I may have had all the sex I will ever need as well. I'd still like to stick around a while longer and keep reading along rather than trying to skip to the end. Whats the point of reaidng the book if you just have to jump to the end to see if "the butler did it"? my friend Tony used to say that everything is connected and like the ripples from a stone thrown into a pond, every little electron that gets bumped sets off a chain of events. Staying focused in the moment can help us be more mindful of the electrons we are bumping into. Grace was never one of my strong suits. Some times I practice sneaking up on my cat to see if I can pet him without waking him up and sometimes he stretches a little and purrs to let me know I was close to the objective. Oh great .. now I've gone and waxed diversely.