Hello A:
I used to think that people or things would stop me from drinking. Years ago I thought if I just had a good woman in my life, I would stop drinking. Well, I married a wonderful woman and I did not stop. I thought once I have children, I will stop. Two children later I still drank. I thought, if I just wasn't bored...So I jumped into different activities, mostly drunk when I did them. Sobriety is a very personal choice and in my experience comes from deep down inside. The difficult part is addiction / sobriety entangle everything. The good thing is sobriety will open doors to help you with the other areas of your life...all in good time. I feel kind of like a hypocrite posting this as I am early in sobriety but I hope it helps.