I am a grateful member of Al-Anon and my husband detoxed 36 days ago. He's working very hard at maintaining sobriety and so far, so good. One of his counselors told me that my AH speaks in group sessions and he smiles from time to time. However, here at home he's almost like a robot. I haven't seen him smile since he got sober, he doesn't laugh, he doesn't cry .... he hardly shows much in the way of emotions, yet I assume he's dealing with a boatload of crap.
What was it like for you? What can I do to help at home - detach with love? show him affection but not smother him? outline some expectations (like sex once a month whether I need it or not)?
behave as if nothing has happened? behave as if something HAS happened but we'll deal with it when we're both further along the road to recovery?
Help!! - suggestions needed!