I think I replied to shutterbug's situation, and I think she is on the money with what she said. Let me see if I can dig up what I wrote for her...becuase I think you would benefit from it also.
*edit*
Ok...I was wrong about the original poster...but she DID make an appearance in that thread. Also, my response wasn't what I thought it was....guess I responded to a similar topic on another board.
HERE (Anti-social, Sociopath, Psychopath, Narcissist)
-pedagogue