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shutterbug · 03-05-2005, 03:47 PM

Sweetie, this is going to sound harsh, and I'm sorry, but you need to get away from this man. Cut your loses and start living for you. I know how hard it is b/c I was in nearly the exact same situation you are in and I couldn't get away.

Mine confesed to being a sociopath, he is a late stage alcoholic, a sex addict, bipolar and has other mental and physical health problems, but I loved him more than anything -- at least that's what I thought.

Get into Al-anon, if he's an alcholic (sorry, I don't have time to read all your post cause I'm a slow reader) and if not then you can start seeing a therapist yourself. DEFINETLY pick up a copy of "Codependency No More" by Melanie Beattie and you will see your self and your situation written about through the entire book!

It may seem like he is the problem, but there is a reason why you are drawn to people who hurt you.

Will he ever love? Probably not, but even if he did would it make a difference if he still acted the same way? Take care of yourself. It's extreamly hard at first, but then it gets fun. I promise.

I finally discovered that I wasn't in love with my sociopath, but rather I was deeply in love with the idea of the man he sometimes showed to me. The idea of him is beautiful, but the truth is that isn't who he is right now and he may NEVER be that person.

LOV N' HUGS,
Jenna

03-05-2005, 03:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
shutterbug A picture's worth a 1000 words Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: With any luck, I'm lost in a view finder Posts: 2,947 Blog Entries: 5	Sweetie, this is going to sound harsh, and I'm sorry, but you need to get away from this man. Cut your loses and start living for you. I know how hard it is b/c I was in nearly the exact same situation you are in and I couldn't get away. Mine confesed to being a sociopath, he is a late stage alcoholic, a sex addict, bipolar and has other mental and physical health problems, but I loved him more than anything -- at least that's what I thought. Get into Al-anon, if he's an alcholic (sorry, I don't have time to read all your post cause I'm a slow reader) and if not then you can start seeing a therapist yourself. DEFINETLY pick up a copy of "Codependency No More" by Melanie Beattie and you will see your self and your situation written about through the entire book! It may seem like he is the problem, but there is a reason why you are drawn to people who hurt you. Will he ever love? Probably not, but even if he did would it make a difference if he still acted the same way? Take care of yourself. It's extreamly hard at first, but then it gets fun. I promise. I finally discovered that I wasn't in love with my sociopath, but rather I was deeply in love with the idea of the man he sometimes showed to me. The idea of him is beautiful, but the truth is that isn't who he is right now and he may NEVER be that person. LOV N' HUGS, Jenna __________________ I'M FINE!! Fanatically Insecure Neuratic & Emotional Bipolar/Depression support: 1-800-950-NAMI(6264).