Am working on this behavior...did not know what it was or understand it. I read another site this morning that said it was the ego again, so it is a spiritual disease, and now I know they are right. It is about getting our needs met that comes from ourself and not from God or God's will. It is really awful behavior based on selfishness, not love, so will be very glad to change it. I think only lots of prayer and learning to give, rather than take, are the only answers to this problem...it is so horrible. That was in my family of origin background and it was very hurtful..but the thing is I don't want to do that to someone else. It is not love.