[ihelpkids]

Scorpio,

Thank you for your PM. While I'm definitely doing better than this weekend, I still struggle with my intense longing for this other woman. This weekend was an emotional relapse. Fortunately, or unfortunately (depending upon how you look at it), my relpases center around codependency issues. For me, my drinking experiences were pretty nightmarish, so I truly have no desire to drink. I know that my codependent issues played a central part in my turning to alcohol several years ago, but I really don't want to have anything to do with drinking.

The problem is, my codependency problems certainly have a negative impact on the quality of my life. I find myself just wanting to do things with her, rather than attending to work responsibilities.

My relationship with my wife is actually pretty stable at this point; meaning that we get along well, enjoy each other's company, and care for each other. My biggest difficulty lies in the fact that I have no faith that my wife would be there for me during a time of crisis/need. She has let me down and acted fairly mean during the 2 or 3 major crisis' in my life with her. I don't feel mad about it anymore. I've actually worked pretty hard at working through those feelings in therapy. Mostly, it's pretty depressing for me to realize that I probably can't count on her during a time of need.