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Dotty-
First, welcome. Secondly, it is to bad you had to be here. Well i can relate to you. I to have an A for my wife. IN my case she has been sober for about 14-15 months. I understand the not having friends over, or not being able or even want to have a drink for yourself. Mine never hid her problem and she would avg (may actually be low) about 8-10 beers per day. Her drinking atarted at 330 in the afternoon until she had to sleep (passout?) around 9-10pm.
It took a major incident with on of my kids, that got her to see what was wrong and seek the help she needed. It was about a 4week in treatment that seems to have worked. At least for today. If I can make one recommendation-get the kids help NOW.(alanon-alateen-counselor) Sooner rather than later. I thought I could handle it and address their concerns and could not have been more wrong. Even if you think they are fine, get them some help.
The other stuff, lack of sex, trust, hugs etc is par for the course for some. The lack of sex or hugs was not a problem for us but even that was losing appeal. When your 18 you dream of meeting a drunk woman. But you really dont need to meet her for the next 25 years every single day.
There are not many of us guys on this board. The ladies here actually tolerates us pretty well. If you need anyone to talk to you can always pm me . Good luck
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