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Originally Posted by lonlion Ashley, I pushed everyone away in favour of my pot smoking too.
Until and unless he "gets it" expect him to put his pot before all others and all other things. That is what active addicts do! It is the nature of the beast. All you can do is tell him if he doesn't quit you are through, then the choice is his.
Take care of yourself and try not to internalize this. It has nothing to do with you. I even pushed my kids away.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you
Diana |
This is exactly how I destroyed my marriage. It's a shame that he's making this same mistake with you. At least he had the sense to see that you're not happy. Now that I'm clean, I can't repair the damage I did, but I know better than to make those same mistakes twice.
The best you can do is exactly what my ex wife did, stay your course. If he gets it, and wants to get clean, then in time he may be healthy enough to give you what you need in a relationship, but don't put your life on hold hoping for it. That's hard advice for me to give, because of my situation and knowing where I've been, but I'd hate to see someone else go through what my ex wife did, my addiction really damaged her, and it's best for her that she left. Her leaving also started me on the path to recovery. Just make sure you clearly let him know WHY you weren't happy. It may not sink in at first (it took me years to finally "get it"), but if and when it does, you can at least know that you may have been the catalyst for him to get help.