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Hello:
I have been talking about my son on another forum. He has been a drug user for a long time. I know he was smoking crystal meth. I don't know how much or how often. All I know that about May 2002 all hell started to break lose.
He couldn't focus on his job he was depressed started having rages than docile than rages again. The rages would occur about every 12-13 days. He lived with his girlfriend and her 7 year old. He never broke things in front of the child but did yell at the mom a few times. Mostly he had rages when the child was not around.
To make a long story short..he finally did go get meds but they put him on Wellbutrin and it through him into a manic state. Then they put him on Depakane. I don't know if he was taking it regularly or not because he started to get really bad with the rages and finally we were able to get him out of her house. Not before he wrecked a lot of her things! Her brothers were furious and scared for her safety as were my husband and myself.
He had no where to go so thank the Lord he was able to get to his father's in Nevada only four hours from here. He was very sad and hates being there. He got a job immediately, changed his drivers license all in one day.
Here's the problem: He calls here every two minutes at first the calls were ok and then the next call would be threatening. He threatens the girlfriend and now she has left her home because she is scared. He says horrible things and calls me horrible filthy names. I tried everything to reason with him and to calm him, but nothing works. He gets more and more abusive! Finally my husband said, not to answer anymore. Not to have any conversation with him. When I did that he threatened to be leaving there and on his way back here. He's on the phone calling right now. He says if we call the police he'll really make it worse for us. He's been through the system and I don't think he wants to go back.
Now he's calling saying he has all these dreaded diseases. I need help in knowing what to do or say to him. Should I even talk to him, or take my Husband's advice and not answer at all?? He was 40 years old on the 18th. He is lucky his Dad is still letting him stay there. I'm afraid he'll soon throw him out! What shall I do? I hate him one minute and am crying for him the next. I have all these emotions and can't seem to get a handle on anything.
Who knows if he is taking the meds! Sometimes he says he is and other times he's not. He will not give up the obsession he has for the girlfriend! He loves the baby. When he thrased her house he did not touch anything of the childs. It's like he knows exactly what he is doing!
Just called now since I haven't taken one call in 12 hours he is calm and docile and says he will return some paper work that I had sent to him from Mental Health. What is happening here?? Am I doing the right thing ignoring his calls? I feel like a Judas!! I am feeling so low...probably not as badly as he does.
Can anyone help? Thank you Devastated
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