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Dear Mrs. Marteen,
My heart is broken for you. I am fairly new here, and have no authority or skills to give you any advice.
I am praying for your daughter. She needs help for sure. I am so sorry you are going through this. She has no idea at this time just how fortunate she is to have such a loving, and caring mother.
Please let me tell you from an addicts view. We belittle, and curse those dearest to us. We BLAME everyone, and everybody except ourselves for where we are. I found the one who loves me the most, and who would go to the ends of the earth for me.....my mom....was the easiest target. The easiest to con money from. It is truly amazing what a mother will give to her child, and for how long, and how a beloved daughter can just keep conning. To this day my poor mom sleeps with her money down her pants. Once she started to fend for herself I physically pushed her. I ripped money from her hands. I stole from her. It must be so awful seeing the child you raised turn into such a monster. You mentioned how angry she got when you remained calm. That's what we do when the people we love get wise, and can no longer live with our mess.
I'm sure the good people on here will bring comfort, and help. I believe there are ways to bring safety to a child. If she is even pregnant. This is only my opinion. If she's "out there" I don't think she'd go for prenatal visits. She may even use this as a way to get something monetary out of you. Then again if she is maybe this will bring her to some much needed help.
Hopefully you can find some peace. You are a devoted mom. There is no way that you, and your husband knew what she was doing as a teen. Every single thing we say, and do is usually calculated, and viscious. There is hope though. As you know that is NOT your daughter. She can come back though. I am certain she loves you, and the rest of her family. She's just terribly sick right now. I send you love, and hope. I am sure someone will help you here. Know you are a great mom, and this is not your fault.
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