Detaching with love was an unknown concept to me when I first started AA.
As I began to gain a little sober time and gave my number out to a few newbies, I would get quite frantic if I felt they were in trouble or stopped texting me.
I have gained a lot of wisdom from my sponsor in this respect. She doesn't continually phone or text those members we know have gone back out. She really cares about them, I've seen her close to tears on a few occasions. But she waits until they're ready. She welcomes them back when they do but she doesn't chase them. And she's got 14 years sober, so I know she's doing something right!x