Originally Posted by
pixy Looking from some advice.
I was 5 years sober, and got a sponsor about 4 years into recovery. We had almost made it through the steps when I picked up a drink earlier this year.
I rang her, and we discussed the slip, and I rang a few more times, but then stopped. I stopped AA, and got on with the business of drinking. I then booked into see an addiction specialist, and have recently started attending AA again, maybe 1 meeting every couple of weeks, but I have yet to go back to my home group.
Probably inappropriately I was upset that my sponsor did not try to contact me at all, and in the bigger picture only 1 person from my home group actually texted me to see if I was okay. Sure it was pride and all the rest, but I felt hurt that I just disappeared off the scene, and it was like I had never even been there.
Rambling, now, my question, is my sponsor still my sponsor, how would you take things forward. My addiction specialist is suggesting a new sponsor.
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
My initial thought is that you achieved sobriety with no sponsor for 4 years.
How do you think you achieved this?
May I also add that I developed many relationships in AA that I thought would ensure caring, and it just didn't happen.
I found that when I drank, they dropped me, fast and hard.
I found there is no friendship, true friendship, in a "sponsor" and that I learned not to rely on any human being.
There are a few people that love me unconditionally and I turn to them.
I think the problem with human relationships is that there are conditions...judgement..
I'll only love you if... I'll only help you if...