Originally Posted by
unsureoffuture 
My husband is a secret drinker too. He can pretend very well. He is very high functioning at this point.
My same situation--he had been drinking secretly for virtually our entire marriage, first just "supplemental" drinking while openly doing social drinking, then complete hiding of daily drinking while claiming to go to meetings but not really going. It has been progressing slowly but certainly progressing. I can only imagine how rapidly it might start to go downhill once he hits retirement age (not that many years away) and no longer has any schedule to keep; am sure the "weekend schedule" of drinking AM to PM would become the "daily schedule" then....so I'd then be that much older and STILL have to face the crap. No thanks. I am dealing w/the situation NOW, no more hiding or pretending for me, regardless of what he ends up doing.